It is said that we have over 50,000 thoughts per day. Most people just take these thoughts for granted and allow then to dominate the quality of their lives, the feelings that pop up, to control of the actions we take or to stop us from taking action ( aka "fear"). In fact, we are totally in control of which thoughts we choose to fill our minds with, which thoughts we choose to entertain and which to discard. We are therefore in charge of the quality of our lives.
Turn your mind for a moment to a happy memory. It might be a birthday celebration or a holiday spent on a beautiful beach. Close your eyes and really see, smell and taste the warm sun, the great company or the delicious food which helped make this day so happy. Now return to current reality. For the time that you imagined the happy memory, admit it, you forgot those bills you had to pay, the weight you had to lose, the worry about the relationship, the pile of work you had to do today..
Negative thoughts about bills, for example, can be useful in the short term as they alert us to pay now to avoid fines, but dwelling on them permanently does nothing to make the bills go away and only causes us stress. It seems simple, but we truly have choice over which thoughts we fill our heads with in the present moment. It make sense therefore, that if we choose positive thoughts over negative thoughts then the quality of our lives will be better. Three strategies for eliminating negative thoughts:
1. As soon as you catch yourself thinking negatively, immediately dismiss the thought, mentally, throw it out and refuse to entertain it.
2. If it is possible to do so, take one small step towards addressing the problem which has caused the negative thought, e.g. if the problem is that you don't like your job, take a look on the internet at a job site or an up-skilling course. You will feel better for doing something proactive, however small. Praise yourself for taking a step. Then move on.
3. Reverse the negative thought by replacing it with a positive. "I hate my job" becomes "It's great that I have a job, and if it no longer suits me then I have the ability to look for something more full-filling for the future".
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