Last week I heard a statistic that 80% of New Year’s resolutions are broken by 8.02 pm on the first Friday after the New Year. Any surprises there?
“I want to get fit”, “ I want to lose weight”, “I want to save money” etc. starts in the right way. Joining the gym, Googling the latest fad diet, whizzing up green smoothies and by-passing the bakery... All the intentions are good and we start with a flourish. But a few days later, on Friday night after a long, hungry, frantic week at work catching up, what happens? It’s cold and wet and the temptation of staying in, watching the box with a glass of wine and a takeaway is too much for even the strongest amongst us!
By Saturday, we shrug our shoulders and return to our usual habits, briefly berating ourselves for having no willpower and say “what the hell, there’s always next year!”
So what is the reason for this? Why are so many of us unable to keep resolutions and fall off the horse at the first hurdle? What can we do to stay on track and reach our goals? Can we do anything to stay on track or should we just settle for what we have?
The reasons we fail are these: We don't want it enough, we set ourselves fuzzy, unrealistic goal and we try to take the fastest short-cut to success.
I will repeat this in a different way! If you set yourself New Year resolutions and have failed already, the chances are YOU DIDN'T WANT IT ENOUGH, YOU DIDN'T SET YOURSELF AN ACHIEVABLE GOAL/S WITH A CLEAR OUTCOME and / or YOU CHOSE A ROUTE THAT WAS TOO HARD TO MAINTAIN.
Here are three steps to achieving a goal, and TAKE NOTE! Step one has to be there before 2 and 3 will work!
Breaking your goal into small, manageable steps, is more likely to get you to the end result. Going back to weight loss as an example, semi-starving yourself for a month may allow you to drop a stone in weight but it will be very hard to do and even more difficult to keep up long term. You may end up feeling weak, hungry, deprived, antisocial and unhappy in the process. Isn’t it better to make small daily changes to you diet e.g. eating cake as a treat once a week instead of four times (or more!), dishing up smaller portions at most mealtimes and avoiding takeaways in favour of home-cooked, healthy meals? Over the course of a few months, these changes will see the same benefits as the crash diet but with less pain and effort. It’s like climbing the mountain the sensible way!
DESIRE – YOU HAVE TO WANT IT ENOUGH
Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Results Driven and Time- Bound
TAKE THE WINDY MOUNTAIN PATH TO THE TOP INSTEAD OF THE STEEP ROCK FACE
What can coaching do for me? I was recently thinking about my "elevator pitch". What do I do, and more importantly, what can I do for you as your life coach? It was uncanny how all the things that sprung to mind, begin with the letter C! Here goes:
Clarity - coaching helps you to visualise future goals and get clearer on what you really want in life or business.
Calling - for some people, there is a feeling that they haven't yet found their life purpose. By exploring your values and motivational drivers safely in a coaching situation, you can reach that "aha" moment and get started.
Control - and I don't mean control of other people - that is never a solution as every individual is on his or her own journey and will learn life's lessons if and when they are ready. It's about regaining control of your own destiny, taking positive action where needed and also (importantly) learning to let go of things you can't control.
Calm - sometimes we seem to fall from one drama into another drama and we can't see the wood through the trees! Coaching will help you to recognise when you are taking on other people's issues or creating drama for yourself and help you to prioritise your energies and consequently feel calmer and more able to cope with problems in life.
Confidence and Capability- often we procrastinate or never achieve our goals because of fear based emotions. Coaching can really help you to take baby steps towards your goals which seem more manageable. It can challenge limiting beliefs which are holding you back from achieving your goals or change your perspective on a situation so that what once felt impossible, now becomes possible.
Consciousness - I added this last 'C' because I am personally very interested in modern theories about universal energy such as the law of attraction, mindfulness, quantum physics and the fact that our thoughts have the power to affect reality. I am by no means and expert on these topics and I never force these theories onto my clients but I like to observe the many miracles that happen once mindset is positively changed.
If you would like to set up a coaching session or for an informal chat please call me or email me
I look forward to hearing from you.
07736 809 687
Imagine I needed you to fundraise $200 to help my son's soccer team to buy some new balls. Could you do it? What activities spring to mind? How long would it take you? Who would you ask to help?
Now imagine I ask you to fundraise $1million to buy a machine which will save many lives.
What are your thoughts on that? What activities now spring to mind? Is it possible? How would you do it? How long would it take? Who would you ask to help?
What did your mind do? Did it search harder and further when asked to raise $1million? Did you still think it possible? If so, were the ideas for raising the money bigger, better, involved more creativity and people?
Why in our own lives do we only think small when we could think big? Whatever thoughts you place in you mind, your subconcious will begin to think up solutions to get you there. So think bigger, not just about raising money and financial abundance, though that is a start. Think bigger in health, love, challenges, happiness, career, lifestyle, friendships, home...set big goals, write them down, maybe post them on a vision board, think about them daily - watch what happens!