Fear is a natural instinct which can be good when confronted by a lion in the jungle, but can hold us back in modern 21st century life!
Consider this: All the great performers, presidents, pioneers and change makers, (think Nelson Mandela, Richard Branson, even Madonna!) feel / felt fear before during and after making decisions and taking action. What is the difference between them and you?
The difference is that that accepted fear as part of life, didn't let it detract from their visions, and found a way to move through it.
If you want to learn how to "Feel the Fear and do it Anyway", then read this excellent and, possibly, life changing book by the late Susan Jeffers. Click here for the link.
CONFIDENCE TIP No. 1
If it's something you have never done before, go on a date with yourself, by yourself. Yes, a date with you! Go to dinner, a movie, ice skating, a concert, theatre, tenpin bowling... choose something you know you will enjoy but have never done alone.
Write the date in your diary and keep to it, commit to it, but go alone.
If this idea fills you with fear or dread, do it anyway. What is the worst that could happen? What's the best that could happen?
Try to be detached and curious about your feelings before, during and after the date. Write down these feelings. After the date, was it as difficult as you thought it was going to be? Would you do it again? What were the good things that came out of the experience? Have you learnt anything about yourself?