What can coaching do for me? I was recently thinking about my "elevator pitch". What do I do, and more importantly, what can I do for you as your life coach? It was uncanny how all the things that sprung to mind, begin with the letter C! Here goes:
Clarity - coaching helps you to visualise future goals and get clearer on what you really want in life or business.
Calling - for some people, there is a feeling that they haven't yet found their life purpose. By exploring your values and motivational drivers safely in a coaching situation, you can reach that "aha" moment and get started.
Control - and I don't mean control of other people - that is never a solution as every individual is on his or her own journey and will learn life's lessons if and when they are ready. It's about regaining control of your own destiny, taking positive action where needed and also (importantly) learning to let go of things you can't control.
Calm - sometimes we seem to fall from one drama into another drama and we can't see the wood through the trees! Coaching will help you to recognise when you are taking on other people's issues or creating drama for yourself and help you to prioritise your energies and consequently feel calmer and more able to cope with problems in life.
Confidence and Capability- often we procrastinate or never achieve our goals because of fear based emotions. Coaching can really help you to take baby steps towards your goals which seem more manageable. It can challenge limiting beliefs which are holding you back from achieving your goals or change your perspective on a situation so that what once felt impossible, now becomes possible.
Consciousness - I added this last 'C' because I am personally very interested in modern theories about universal energy such as the law of attraction, mindfulness, quantum physics and the fact that our thoughts have the power to affect reality. I am by no means and expert on these topics and I never force these theories onto my clients but I like to observe the many miracles that happen once mindset is positively changed.
If you would like to set up a coaching session or for an informal chat please call me or email me
I look forward to hearing from you.
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I can get job satisfaction
How happy are you at work?
Rate your overall contentment on a scale of 0-10, zero being “nothing feels good about it right now” and ten being “I absolutely wouldn’t change a thing”
Obviously all jobs have their ups and downs but working in a job, being in a role or working for an organisation which is consistently out of alignment with your values can create a feeling of discord, unhappiness, restlessness or de-motivation.*
When you find yourself dreading going to work or when work is negatively impacting your mood, relationships, motivation and energy on a regular basis, it might be time to re-assess your life values so you can make a change in the right direction.
Satisfaction, happiness and contentment can be linked directly to creating and living a life which aligns with your values and priorities, and these may change evolve at each life stage.
Values are the things you hold important in life. Our values make us unique. They are what make one person a great firefighter and another more suited to being a teacher, a lawyer, electrician, writer, a botanist or an Olympic athlete… Some people are influenced and motivated by a sense of contribution and meaning. Others require security, creativity, autonomy or power. Other values include honesty, integrity, safety, order, belonging, respect and reward, and the list goes on…
Without necessarily being conscious of it we are drawn to roles and situations which match our life values.
There is hardly ever one perfect job for life. The reality is that things change over time. We change, organisations change, the economy changes, our lives change, relationships change, circumstances change, our needs change, our motivational drivers change, our values change.
And that’ OK. The challenge is in recognising it’s time for a change and making an informed decision on what to do next for the best.
Here’s are some examples:
Without realising it, Karen values order, trust and respect and is also motivated by security and autonomy. She trained hard to become an accountant, enjoys her job and has worked for the last 5 years in a small yet established firm with prospects of becoming a partner. Unexpectedly, the owner is taken sick and the company is enveloped by a large accountancy firm. Karen inherits a Managing Director who doesn’t seems to acknowledge her opinions and ideas like her old boss did and wants to micromanage her work. As you can imagine, Karen feels unhappy, powerless and frustrated.
Integrity, authenticity and ambition have always been important to Emma who has worked her way up through the ranks to become Head of Marketing for a major fashion retailer. Since having her first baby and taking time off for maternity leave, Emma is now feeling demotivated and distracted back at work. Her priorities have changed. She is less interested in buying high fashion for herself as a significant portion of her and her partner’s income is now spent on childcare and baby needs. As well, she is struggling to find the energy and motivation she used to have to attend all the after-hours events that are expected in the role. Emma feels conflicted because she wants to give the same commitment to the job but doesn’t have the same passion for the brand that she used to. She feels guilty missing her baby’s bedtime when she has to work late. She doesn’t want to lose her marketing skills and enjoys the creativity and the social interaction she gets through her role.
As a life coach, one of the first things I would suggest to both Karen and Emma is that they evaluate their current life values. An easy way to do this is to take a list of commonly held values and to cross the unimportant and not so important ones off the list until you get to your top 10 values. Some of your values will remain static over the years and others will change, influenced by your age and life experiences.
If you rated your own contentment at work as 6/10 or less, then try checking your values against your current job situation.
Gaining clarity on your top ten values can help you to see where you are living out of alignment and can make it easier to see where to take positive action.
In Karen’s case, if she evaluates her values and can see then identify the lack of respect and loss of job security as the issues, it may motivate her to actively seek a new company with supportive management and offering the security she desires. Alternatively, she may decide to communicate to her boss what her values and needs are so that a solution may be reached. She may even decide to relax her need for security and set up her own business which will give her the autonomy she desires and potentially, better security in the long term.
An option for Emma may be to find a way to combine her fashion and marketing skills by moving away from high fashion adults clothing to a children’s clothing retailer. She may even consider planning and setting up her own online maternity and baby fashion store, which can be started from home. She might decide on a complete change of career direction, take a part-time role or go to full time parenting for a while. Understanding her current values will help her make a better decision on what is right for her and her family right now.
By taking time to learn about and understand yourself you can design the life that matches your unique personal attributes. In this case, aligning your work with your values can really help with overall happiness, success and contentment in a significant area of your life.
* If you are experiencing feelings of anxiety or symptoms of depression, please seek professional medical advice.
We can learn from the experiences of those who have already been through the challenges we are facing and have succeeded. Here is one for all aspiring entrepreneurs our there!
"The most important thing is attitude. We must strive to aspire and achieve against all odds with integrity, you come up with an idea, you have little or no means, you have all the odds stacked against you, you make it happen and you do it with integrity; to me – that is the definition of entrepreneurship!"
Quote from Lord Bilomoria (Cobra Beer Founder) Click Here for a link to the full interview
Fear is a natural instinct which can be good when confronted by a lion in the jungle, but can hold us back in modern 21st century life!
Consider this: All the great performers, presidents, pioneers and change makers, (think Nelson Mandela, Richard Branson, even Madonna!) feel / felt fear before during and after making decisions and taking action. What is the difference between them and you?
The difference is that that accepted fear as part of life, didn't let it detract from their visions, and found a way to move through it.
If you want to learn how to "Feel the Fear and do it Anyway", then read this excellent and, possibly, life changing book by the late Susan Jeffers. Click here for the link.
Vilfredo Pareto was an Italian economist. In 1906 he developed a theory that 80% of his country's wealth was owned by 20% of his country's citizens. Over time, this 80/20 principle / pattern has been noted to be true in other areas of life, and in particular, has been picked up by the business community. For example, it is said that 20% of your clients provide 80% of your income, 20% of your staff are responsible for 80% of your production, 20% of your time produces 80% of your results... There are many articles on Pareto's Principle, and once you are aware of it, it can help you to focus your time and resources more productively.
Below is a link to an article by Yaro Starak which expands on Pareto's Principle perfectly and explains how it applies today.
Personally, I'm a great believer that most of our creative thinking (80%!) is done in our subconscious mind, while we are away from the task. Often our best ideas come to us after or while exercising, dreaming, resting, meditating, playing, shopping, fishing or some other form of down time. These activities may also be called "procrastination" but in fact, time away from a task / business, is essential for renewing creativity and thinking up solutions to problems.
As with all new information, once you are aware of Pareto's Principle, you can take the parts which relate to you / your life / your business, and then use it to your own advantage.