1. Acceptance Change is the only constant in life. Even if you were to stand in one place for the whole of your life, your body would still age, technology would continue to develop in the world, trees would grow and die, people would come and go, the sun would set and rise. Accepting change is the first step to adapting.
2. Want It Enough So you want to change a habit, a behaviour, a negative mind pattern, a limiting belief? To do this, you must really, really, really want it! Diet is a popular example. Lots of us wish we could lose weight, know we ought to, should but often times it's not until we have a health crisis that we actually do. Why is that? Deep down, maybe the reasons aren't clear and compelling enough. We need clarity around why we want to change.
3. Accept Discomfort Yes there may be fear, discomfort, effort, mental fatigue, resistance, failure before you move forward. This is GOOD! It proves that you are changing. If you can accept it, go with it, and learn to live with these "inevitables" in life, then change can occur.
4. Not Everyone will Like it. Be prepared. As you change, others around you may respond in curious ways. They will tempt you with food if you are dieting, they will be angry at you for saying no when you would normally say yes, they try to quash your new-found happiness and give you warning advice about the changes you are making. If you expect and prepare for these reactions from people then they won’t hinder your success so easily. The good news is that if you are committed to the change then the people who matter will eventually come around to your new way of doing things. If they were not true friends in the first place, they will move out of your life making way for new friends who do support your values.
5. You Can't Change Others FACT. However, positive changes that you make within yourself, will often have profound affect on the people around you. If you become more kind and giving, you may well begin to receive in ways you never expected. If you learn new ways to communicate with your spouse, you may find that they begin to open up to you too. If you start to treat yourself with a healthy respect (create boundaries), you may find that others treat you with a renewed healthy respect.
What change will you create today?
Photo: "Temporary" Sculpture by Delicia Sampero,