Last week I heard a statistic that 80% of New Year’s resolutions are broken by 8.02 pm on the first Friday after the New Year. Any surprises there?
“I want to get fit”, “ I want to lose weight”, “I want to save money” etc. starts in the right way. Joining the gym, Googling the latest fad diet, whizzing up green smoothies and by-passing the bakery... All the intentions are good and we start with a flourish. But a few days later, on Friday night after a long, hungry, frantic week at work catching up, what happens? It’s cold and wet and the temptation of staying in, watching the box with a glass of wine and a takeaway is too much for even the strongest amongst us!
By Saturday, we shrug our shoulders and return to our usual habits, briefly berating ourselves for having no willpower and say “what the hell, there’s always next year!”
So what is the reason for this? Why are so many of us unable to keep resolutions and fall off the horse at the first hurdle? What can we do to stay on track and reach our goals? Can we do anything to stay on track or should we just settle for what we have?
The reasons we fail are these: We don't want it enough, we set ourselves fuzzy, unrealistic goal and we try to take the fastest short-cut to success.
I will repeat this in a different way! If you set yourself New Year resolutions and have failed already, the chances are YOU DIDN'T WANT IT ENOUGH, YOU DIDN'T SET YOURSELF AN ACHIEVABLE GOAL/S WITH A CLEAR OUTCOME and / or YOU CHOSE A ROUTE THAT WAS TOO HARD TO MAINTAIN.
Here are three steps to achieving a goal, and TAKE NOTE! Step one has to be there before 2 and 3 will work!
Breaking your goal into small, manageable steps, is more likely to get you to the end result. Going back to weight loss as an example, semi-starving yourself for a month may allow you to drop a stone in weight but it will be very hard to do and even more difficult to keep up long term. You may end up feeling weak, hungry, deprived, antisocial and unhappy in the process. Isn’t it better to make small daily changes to you diet e.g. eating cake as a treat once a week instead of four times (or more!), dishing up smaller portions at most mealtimes and avoiding takeaways in favour of home-cooked, healthy meals? Over the course of a few months, these changes will see the same benefits as the crash diet but with less pain and effort. It’s like climbing the mountain the sensible way!
DESIRE – YOU HAVE TO WANT IT ENOUGH
Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Results Driven and Time- Bound
TAKE THE WINDY MOUNTAIN PATH TO THE TOP INSTEAD OF THE STEEP ROCK FACE